the icon next to the join/leave notifications isn't the player one, it just
inherits whatever icon appeared last. change your avatar and it turns into the
avatar icon, change something in the instance settings and it becomes that one,
and it stays like that
  1. join a public instance
  2. change your avatar or change any instance setting
  3. invite a friend or wait for someone to join
  4. the icon that shows up is the last one you touched instead of the player one